Have you ever wanted something so badly, it’s almost hard to breathe when you think about not having it? A deeply seeded goal to create, to take action, to move forward is buzzing inside you. Buzzing with excitement, with hope, with determination to exist outside of your mind and into your reality. An “oops! I drank one too many coffees this afternoon kind of buzz”. Like a caffeine high.
This is how I feel about my desire, hope, and dream to foster an active bad-ass community of women who are on a mission to re-frame - an active way of being to live in the present and live a FULL life (whatever that means to her) by taking action. And taking action even in the face of self-doubt, so her passions and goals may be realized.
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting tens of other women just like me, who desire something more. Many want to start soulful and purpose-driven businesses and careers, work that really lights them up. It’s usually not the career they went to college for or have spent the last 4-8+ years investing in. It’s the one thing we always come back to. It’s the thing we read over, and over, and over again across the pages of our journals and the thing we find ourselves talking about when someone asks what we would do with our lives if money wasn’t a factor.
What I hear time and time again (and what I experienced over the past three-ish months) is the immense weight self-doubt can hold over us and stop us in taking action towards what we want. The self-doubt that shows up as:
What-ifs (like 2,357,349,673,467 “what-ifs”)
Worst case scenarios
The harsh and mean inner-critic
The scarcity mindset
All this self-doubt does is keep us stuck, scared and in the same spot. I’m speaking from experience here. And who wants that? Not me. And not any other powerful, loving, determined, growth-minded woman out there. So what’s a gal to do when she has this vibrant dream living inside her, yet self-doubt seems to always win?
We share with our trusted circle and show up with the vulnerability of where we actually are right now. Not where we should be or could be. We stop pretending and stop hiding behind the belief that we have to have it all together.
And by no means is this easy. But the funny thing about sharing? Sharing takes power away from self-doubt, fear, limiting beliefs, and the what-ifs. It gets us out of our head and places distance between “the story” (aka ALL the lies) we’ve been telling ourselves and the actual truth of how freaking capable we are.
Case in point, I’ve been sharing more and more over the past few weeks with my people (and the internet) about the self-doubt that exists right now. I’m finding so much power in sharing because it’s giving me the confidence and clarity that I need to keep taking action (baby steps) towards my dream of building a community and my own mindset coaching business. Even if the self-doubt is lingering, I’m telling it to go CHILL OUT and sit in the corner. My dreams and my desires to live presently with ease and joy, and make an impact on this world with my work are so, so much bigger than that pesky “S-D word”.
Remember, we are always, always more capable than we ever think we are.