Dear Predictable, It's Over


Predictability. Routine. Familiarity.

It’s the solid 5-day-a-week gym routine, attending the bi-weekly networking event to stay competitive and develop new relationships, and the weekly Blue Apron stay-at-home date night with our S.O.

These activities feel really nice and cozy…for awhile. Schedules are brimming, the productivity boxes are being checked, and the relationship/career/love tanks are feeling full. But yet…something feels like it’s missing, right?

I know that feeling because I’ve been there. Exactly in your predictable (size 7.5 tan-colored suede booties with a 2.5-inch heel) fall-ready shoes.

That “something missing” starts as a small itch. Scratch it and it’ll be satiated, but usually it’ll come back as an even bigger area to scratch away at. I believe we can crush that “something missing feeling” with small (yet powerful) actions called new experiences.

Shake. it. up! Erase those boxes. Turn those tanks upside down.

Commit to that 4-week training intensive that will level-up your fitness routine. Invite your dream mentor that you’ve been internet stalking for the past 5 months to coffee. Book that Saturday day trip up the coast to surprise your S.O. (just because).

New experiences and new actions often lead to new mindsets and discovering something new about ourselves. Taking ourselves out of the predictable allows us to see and read a whole new chapter when we’ve been stuck reading the same page, over and over.

I know that new experiences light us up. We crave them. They foster growth and make us feel a new-level of aliveness! And then life happens. Work gets really stressful, a loved one gets sick, we get overwhelmed with always giving ourselves to others and just want relax in our free time. We can also get stuck by self-doubt and questioning why we should change anything at all if nothing is “broken”. If it’s not broken, don’t fix it.

That’s where we need to challenge ourselves to press “pause”. We have to remind ourselves how that new experience makes us feel.

Let’s take some time to tap back into how you felt during your last couple new experiences.


  1. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and reflect for 5 minutes about the new experiences you’ve had over the past 6 months.

  2. Place yourself back into those experiences and how you felt. Did you experience the feelings of joy, love, self-expression, gratitude, serenity, or inspiration? What were you doing? Who were you with?

  3. Answer this question: what did you discover about yourself after completing these new experiences?

  4. Now go grab your journal or phone and write down 3 new experiences you’re committed to completing over the next 3 months and how you’ll fee after completing them.

  5. BONUS: Look at your calendar and schedule those three new experiences. Commit today, right now. A powerful win for today.

Sorry predictability, it’s over.

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